if I'm "walking, talking, eating and moving" and able to keep these meds down, I'm sprung like a chicken this Saturday.
Betrayal. Just beware the internets. They don't always love you as much as they say they do. And sometimes when they do, it still breaks the fuck out of your heart.
I just don't know what to do and it's making me nearly not able to function. I must cope. I have to. I have no choice. But I have never felt so surrounded by love yet so all alone in my life.
My heart is totally broken, but I'm here having to have a smile on my face so they can see that I'm well. I have never felt so unwell in my life.
I know. I know I have Zoe. I have much to look forward to in my life. But part of what I was looking forward to is now just, well, gone.
I can do this. I'm just too sad.
Posted by debutaunt at March 23, 2006 11:08 AMI just found your blog today and am thrilled. However, I don't have a clue who might have betrayed you. I don't suppose that matters - what does matter is that in the words I've read from you thus far, it is vastly vastly clear that you are a strong, powerful woman. Whatever this betrayal is, you will get through it too. I know you are feeling heartsick right now, but you are strong, and you will come through this.
Wishing you love and strength,
a new reader
You're having a rough time, it shows, and all I can say is "hang in there, chick". You're an inspiration to ALL of us, healthy and otherwise.
You're are undoubtedly the strongest person I've ever met and you can do this.
I love you!
Theresa
I don't get it either (Saturday?), but thoughts are with you.
Posted by: Mark at March 23, 2006 12:20 PMdarlin.. people suck... and whoever this person is they suck more than anything in the free world..and I would very much like to sic my defensive line of women's tackle football players on them and make them beg for mercy.
but I do know, having been betrayed a couple times myself, that KARMA is the best thing that can happen to that type of person. So, put it out of your mind. don't let it consume you.. it did me, and cause me difficulty.. you have to focus on KICKIN ASS! just put whoever that is in line for AFTER you cick Cancer..
sending positive and good thoughts your way.. and oh.. pizza AND broccoli????? no wonder you threw up silly!
peace,
biscuit
Deb,
It's ok to be sad, just don't give up. Life sucks sometimes but then there's the upside too.
I'm sorry for whatever broke your heart just don't let it break your spirit. You've been an inspiration to those of us that have witnessed what you've gone thru. You're almost there, hang on, you'll make it. Big hugs and prayers going out to you right now. xoxoxo
Kathy
You are an inspiration to so many people who you will never know, but who have been cheering you on through your battle. Keep focused on your health and your beautiful Zoe.
And add me to the list of willing ass-kickers. I'm short and old, but as a mother and teacher I'm always available to defend innocents from jerks!
Posted by: hermillion at March 23, 2006 12:48 PMMy wife is going in for surgery next week which may be for removal of a tumor- or it's some odd thing growing, the likes of which the docs can't tell what, medical science being what it is.
I have been keeping up with your blog as I can mostly because I am trying to learn about producing strength when I'm feeling weak- which, as I think of it, is the only time I really need it.
I am just one person who is grateful for your candor and humor, and who is rooting for you. There are plenty of others.
Thank you for helping show the way.
Posted by: nitrah55 at March 23, 2006 12:50 PMkeep on keepin' on, lady!
and i'll cross my fingers for saturday!
xoxo
Posted by: clandestine at March 23, 2006 12:52 PMDeb,
I wish I knew what happen? But let me tell you something. Don't let nobody make you feel that you are nothing or that you are wasting there time. I know you are a wonderful woman and mother and who ever the person is that did something to you he or she are not worth having you as a friend or anything else. As a mention before I wish one day I get the chance to sit and talk to you and tell you a little bit about why you have change my life so much. For now just remember that if you need a friend you can count on me.
xoxo,
Loryss
Posted by: Loryss at March 23, 2006 01:12 PMWhatever it is weighing so heavy on your heart I am praying will be healed sooner than you think.
Saturday is only two days away and I'm sure a new atmosphere will give you a whole new outlook on things.
Hang in there Debuma - you are amazing.
Jeezus honey. I am so sorry for your sadness. It's hard to just pick up and move on sometimes isn't it? The pain will touch your heart and leave a scar of some kind. That said, the memory will always be there...it will hurt less in time. I have no idea what happened however from reading I assume it's something with one of your "internets". Email me if you want to "talk" sweetie. I'm a fabulous listener. Peace.
Posted by: Traci at March 23, 2006 01:29 PMFirst time commentator here. Bix made me do it and I do everything Bix says. :):) Well, maybe some of the things. You ever listen to her? :)
Cheers from North Dakota. I believe you lived here once, care to comment or is that a repressed memory thing?
Take care, you may hear from me again. You should be so lucky. :):)
Posted by: Dave at March 23, 2006 01:30 PMDeb,
I wish I knew what hurt you so badly. I can't stand to hear the pain you are going through. You can get through this Deb, hang on, soon you will be home and back with Zoe. If you want to talk email me: steemagno@comcast.net
Cami
grrrrrr.
I'm kicking ASS.
(but a tiny voice in my head is wondering if you were not destined to be with this person in your new life...)
Sweetie, so sorry to hear you are hurting. Whoever hurt you is an arsehole. What weak person plays emotional games with an ill person? This is not someone you wish to have in your life, in one way thank goodness you have found out their true nature. I wish I knew the cure to heal the hurt of betrayal cos I would Fed Ex it to you toot sweet, (it's happened to me too). At the moment hun, don't be sad, let go of their arsyholeness, put it away from you, box it up and put it in the rubbish. Try and give yourself a reiki to rid yourself of their negativity. You have to focus your energy on getting well. Love.
Posted by: lynne at March 23, 2006 03:02 PMHey, you NEED to be out by Saturday so keep smiling! Maybe you don't feel like smiling, but you do feel like getting out of there, don't you? (Or am I mistaken and you have decided to stay a while longer? I don't think so!)
You know you can fool them into thinking you're happy so they'll let you out. That's easy compared to what you've already been through.
Okay, maybe not. But you can still do it.
Nonstop prayers that you will meet all the criteria necessary to go home Saturday. Keep your spirit as high as you can at this difficult time. Your support group is holding you up and we're not going to let you down.
Now get busy walking, talking, eating, moving and all that other good stuff. You CAN and WILL do it!
Posted by: Kay at March 23, 2006 04:10 PMDeb,
sorry your still hurting but i'm glad your playing the "SMILE I'M OK" game to get out of there is 2 flippen days.
I know we don't officially know eachother but please know you have made a difference in my life. Your assignments way back when, had me re-commect with a sibling i stopped talking to for some silly reason. you are an inspriation and i hope there mere words will let you know that i really do care about you and your Zoe. I hope each day get better and I hope Saturday is full of sunshine.
you deserve the best
take care
nancy
I read your blog every single day and you have been in my thoughts and prayers. I was stunned that anyone would be so evil to you. I have learned the hard way myself that the same love that saves you will also crucify you. Lesson learned-been there, done that. Chin up girl-this too shall pass.
Deneen
Posted by: deneen at March 23, 2006 04:53 PMDon't let the fugger bring you down.
You are wonderful!
:o)