I apologized. I'm not losing sleep over this. I'm also not sorry for what I said, because I still feel that way (and yes, I personally am a bit of a fatass, so I know what it's like to be overweight), but I am sorry if I offended someone. That just happens when you voice opinions. Guess the apology doesn't matter. Regardless, it's how I feel.
A dangerous surgery should be a last resort. And only for the truly obese - like bedridden. If you don't think gastric bypass is the new carpal tunnel, then turn on daytime tv. There are at least 2-3 ads per hour. Pretty much any surgeon can do the surgery too. Doesn't matter if they are experienced or not. And just google gastric bypass deaths.
Gastric Bypass Surgery Gone Bad Study: 1 In 50 People Die Within A Month Of Surgery
And then, you have to workout and eat right anyway after the surgery. So why not get off your ass now and walk a block and back before undergoing the knife? Even if it takes you years to lose the weight, by that time you will be fitter and won't have a stomach the size of an egg. They are baby steps.
I guess mostly to me when someone loses weight the "old fashioned" and HEALTHY (uh boring) way, it is truly inspirational. Like someone who climbs a mountain after undergoing chemo treatments. I would think that losing weight by changing your lifestyle would be much more satisfying than recovering from some damn surgery. People do it all the time.
It's like climbing a mountain vs. getting to the top via helicopter.
That being said, if you don't want to read my blog anymore, well that's your choice. Personally I don't really give a shit. I'll still be here.
NE-Way........
I've been thinking about my move to San Antonio. While it's great to have that option, I really am going to miss my friends and my sisters here in Houston. I don't really know anyone in San Antonio. I know that my parent's church all know who I am, but it's not the same. It's bad enough here, where I feel so totally isolated, but to move somewhere I don't know anyone, well it just is a bit sad to me. At least I can join my parent's gym. That is going to be my main focus.
I'm done here.
Your assignment for today is to GET OFF YOUR ASS AND MOVE. DON'T EAT LIKE CRAP TODAY. Trust me. You will feel better for doing so. It's pretty freaking basic.
Oh Jesus. Discovery Health show - "Escaping Obesity - Kathy's Story." Escape. Escape. It's a fate worse than death. You are a piece of crap if you are fat. You must be miserable and lazy. Probably smelly. Oh the humanity. *rolling eyes here.*
Posted by debutaunt at June 21, 2006 06:45 AMHello,
I haven't commented in a while since it’s the end of term here and I've been up to my eyes with organising our student’s final show and then assessing all their work. Tonnes of paper work, bah humbug!
Great to see you still have your fantastic sense of humour and boo sucks that you have been "dissed" for expressing your opinion. Rumour on the block has it that it happens to all the best bloggers :)
Obesity and gastric bypasses really scare me, especially as obesity is rising in this country too. I look at all the fried chicken and burger outlets that have appeared over the last 10 years in horror. I don't know if you've ever heard of Jamie Oliver but he had a programme here about the state of kid’s nutrition in schools which was truly shocking. It appears we have forgotten how to eat well.
I must feel a bit weird to be moving back in with your parents, but look at it this way it's not for ever and it's a good chance to recap how much you appreciate each other. Your family sounds lovely and San Antonio looks beautiful from the website.
Keep on getting better,
Love
Lynne
x
Good assignment, its been hot here in Boston and I have given up my lunch time walking. I will get off my ass and start up again.
Sorry about your moving situation, try to think of it as a tempory weigh station. Until you are 100%, you need to be near family. Once your 100% you and your Zoe can go any where you want. Change sucks but having a support system is necessary. but it still must be tough.
take care
"It's like climbing a mountain vs. getting to the top via helicopter."
Well put. I agree with everything you've said.
gah -
trouble could come this way...but...
what about the psychological condition of a person who has become so large? It cannot be only physical, even if it is a disease...and what about family members? there are cases I've read or seen wherein family members enable obese people - surgery is easy for them too.
BUT ENOUGH.
So many life changes for you! I guess you are going to have to ride this train and see where it takes you.
San Antonio, apparently.
Who KNOWS what awaits you there!
I finally got off my ass and joined a gym - I work full time and have two toddlers but NO MORE EXCUSES -if Deb can find time to move then I can too! YOU are my inspiration !!
Have a wonderful day.
Hey you know people in and around SA. I am in Austin. So, when you are up and able to have vistors, I can make the trek to SA and see you :-)
And I agree with you 100% with everything else.
Posted by: Missy at June 22, 2006 10:33 AMI'm terrified of any surgery b/c I've been through SO MANY with my back. That's why I have been working out 6 days a week!!! (Joined team debu too!!! ). :)
I think many people in the future will regret some of their decisions they made in haste. I also know how absolutely futile being fat feels -- as I was EXTREMELY OBESE according to doctor's charts. I went on a liquid diet which was both recommended and supervised by my doctor. It felt very extreme and unhealthy to me as well...
But - I have to say I made that unpopular decision to save myself several more surgeries on my back and am VERY GLAD I did. I'm now considered merely "overweight". Yippie. *grin*
At anyrate, sweetie- focus on YOU right now and not on what other people are doing. Know that surgeries are THE SUXXX because you've been through too many medical procedures to count and you're THROUGH WITH THEM.
Let other people learn for themselves why a quick fix means nothing without dedicating the rest of their lives to health - eating right, working out, good attitudes, finding joy, connecting with people.
That still has to come, or else their quick fix means nothing.
much love!
xx
M
I will add my opinion to YOUR blog. You can write anything you want since it is your blog. Don't worry about someone who writes mean things. Just keep getting better and concentrate on that. I enjoy reading your comments and always get a good laugh or good cry. You are so strong and so many people that read this blog look up to you.
Posted by: Carol at June 22, 2006 11:23 AMOne of my friends is moving to SA and she swears that there are parts that are cool. You do what you gotta do to get better and be with that Zoe!!!
Posted by: Sarcastic Journalist at June 22, 2006 01:14 PMbut, but, THE RIVERWALK!!! and austin is only a hop skip jump!
Posted by: robiewankenobie at June 22, 2006 02:14 PMSan Antonio is beautiful. If I had to choose between Houston and SA, I'd pick Austin. OOOOOPPPS. I mean San Antonio. :) I was born there. Stop by Dallas on the way!
Posted by: Kami at June 22, 2006 03:53 PMCarol made me laugh.
I think that it is great that everyone has this blind support for Deb, but an examination of Lucky's comments and Deb's comments shows that the comments that could be interpreted as hurtful and mean really came from Deb, not Lucky. She is the one who provided a reasoned, articulated post.
Deb seems to indicate that she wants some degree of self-examination and improvement at this point in her life. Here might be a good time for it.
Posted by: Voice of Reason at June 22, 2006 04:05 PMActually, you really didn't need to apologize. You're not responsible for the angst of everyone over every ailment or condition. It's a blog. You were actually quite kind. It wasn't a flaming comment.
And anyone who would rag on YOU after what you've been and are going through, for lack of empathy, is screwy.
I wanted to say something worse, but I'm on YOUR blog now, not mine.
Hang in there DebuQueen and fuck'em if they can't take a joke.
Hey Lukemia Survivor, I moved here (to Houston) about 14 months ago and thought I would DIE! I'm from what once "was" a little crunchy neighborhood in New Orleans... Katrina aside, I found the Heights... What I consider to be a very "pricey" slice of HEAVEN!
Every city has something to offer, you just need to find a comfortable place that suits you and your lifestyle and your medical needs and MOST IMPORTANTLY - your child's needs... Sick or healthly, fat or skinny - your baby loves you and needs you.
Stranger to You & Temporarily in Exile,
Karen
Hey! I'm in Austin too! Maybe when you're up to it, Deb, we should have a Debucaravan down to SA.
Posted by: Sharon at June 24, 2006 07:12 PM"Articulated" made me laugh.
But that's beside the point. A little controversy always makes a blog more interesting. Not that this blog needs controversy to make it interesting.
You'll be okay no matter where you settle, Deb. You've got the attitude to pull you through.
Posted by: Philosophical Karen at June 26, 2006 08:55 AMUgh! Jeez! Don't know anyone in SA? HELLO?!? What am I, chopped liver??? Ok, ok, so maybe you don't REALLY know me, but, I AM HERE...I also have a 4 year old daughter who would love to play with Zoe, I'm sure! Aaannnnnnnnnddddd...I live in the Stone Oak area, right off Blanco Road and 1604. Where there is a TACO CABANA on one side of 1604 and a SUPER TARGET on the other! Plus, there's a Starbucks about 2 doors down from Taco Cabana and there's on inside Target so...how could it be any better?
So...when ya gonna be here? Anytime soon? Because seriously, I'd love to meet you-you are a great inspiration!
Posted by: Lauri at June 27, 2006 03:24 PM