February 12, 2007

Packing

Packing with a little trepidation. I'm headed to the big H-town tomorrow for my one year checkup at MD Anderson.

Can you believe that it's almost been one year since my transplant? I went back and looked at where I was at this time last year. Reading that month made my cry, but it also made me laugh.

I read even further back to February 2005. Now that is scary. Quite the use of the f*bomb. What a mixed up time in my life.

Reading these make me know that regardless of all the new cells growing in my body, I am a very different person than I once was. Less lonely, more self-reliant, much more humble, and not quite as scattered.

I'm glad to be who I am. I don't think the leukemia changed me, but it did reinforce my priorities. And I am much less serious than I was before. Thank the good Lord for that one.

A year.

I can do this. I might even get a cake with one candle on it.

Your assignment today is to tell me when you started reading in my parts of the world. Those that have read way back (or the few that have read all of it) probably have a very different perspective on who I am. If you don't want to post, or read back, go read a book. Pick one you have never read or an old favorite that's gathered dust. Exercise your brain today.

Way back machine:
Zoe3.bmp

Zoe on her 3rd birthday.

Posted by debutaunt at February 12, 2007 08:52 AM
Comments

I started reading you after Nikki sent me a link to your blog and said you needed support and cheering up.

Most definitely you MUST have a cake or something with a candle my dear. Brava to you!

Posted by: Traci at February 12, 2007 11:07 AM

I can't remember who sent me this way (maybe mrtl???), but I have been reading for probably eight-10 months. Your courage has been an inspiration. I think I would have said screw it all a long time ago!

Posted by: Therese at February 12, 2007 12:08 PM

I can't remember when I "found you again" and started reading your parts of the world but I do remember going all the way back and reading your first entry up to that present moment.It was soooo coooolll to finally be back in touch with you after all those years. It is also amazing how much we are still just alike. As far as books, I'm currently reading Relic by Douglas Preston and Lincoln Child. It is pretty good and fast paced. Check it out.

Cami

Posted by: Cami at February 12, 2007 12:11 PM

I found your blog when I googled Leukemia Blogs. I needed adult perspective. I was looking for a way to understand everything my son was about to go through. Of course, the BMT process is different for everyone. My bubba had such a difficult time and ultimately, the complications took over and this part of his journey, with me and his Dad, came to an end. But you...You helped me in ways I can never explain. I have told you this personally, but now I am telling everyone...The Debster helped me to take care of my son, helped me understand his illness, side effects, his transplant...she made me a better mom at a time in my life when I felt like no one else could understand or help me help my son. You are a true miracle and I am thankful for having the opportunity to know you through your journal.

Posted by: Kadin's mom at February 12, 2007 12:51 PM

You are a inspiration to us all.
May be this b.day the first to many many more.
Stay stong for yourself and your child.

Posted by: anita at February 12, 2007 01:28 PM

I think I had lurked here occasionally before you got sick, but then became a "regular" lurker :) after Susie mentioned you.

I'm a breast cancer survivor (I just wrote about my almost 5-year status at my blog), and can relate to a lot of what you've gone through. One thing that I found at the end of my first year was that looking back on it, the year wasn't as bad as I had imagined it would be. And I had a recurrence after six months, so it really was bad . . . but still not as bad as I'd imagined.

After all you've been through, I'm not sure whether you can say the same thing. But hooray and congratulations for making it to the (almost) one year mark!

Posted by: Sharkey at February 12, 2007 02:29 PM

You gotten stronger, sassier, more self assured and healthier, ahem!
Good Luck with your ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY ...

Posted by: Stacy at February 12, 2007 02:54 PM

Get a cake and change your name to Debuinspiration. Happy Birthday to you!

I am reading a great book The Tenth Circle by
Jodi Picoult.

Posted by: Claire at February 12, 2007 03:17 PM

Deb,

I started reading about a year ago when I saw a post on Chuck Kuffner's blog. I went to college with Chuck and your sister Stephanie (She won't remember me. At least I hope not. I was an idiot in college.) I got hooked by the heartbreaking honesty of your story and your willingness to expose your feelings so freely. I don't think I could do it.

It's amazing to read about some of the things you have endured. I can't fathom how tough you have to be. When Nikki, someone who I only knew through her notes to you, died, I cried at my desk.

I visit your site most every day and say a little prayer. It doesn't seem like a year, but seeing your blog today, I can't help but think that there are some angels stirring your pot.

Now the bad news. Last week my wife's cousin was diagnosed with a form of non-Hodgkins lymphoma. She's 20. She's at Anderson and the doctor's are evaluating her trying to figure out how far advanced the disease is and what steps to take. But while they are working on that, I'm going to pray. It's worked for Debuma, I have faith it will work for Kelly.

Patrick

Posted by: Patrick at February 12, 2007 03:33 PM

I found you about a month or so before you got sick. I can't remember how either. I'm sooooo glad I did though. You are my favorite blogger. Happy one year anniversary, mama.

Posted by: Dawn at February 12, 2007 04:12 PM

Christine told me how you and she had rediscovered each other. Having had a girlfriend who lost her 6 year old daughter to leukemia many years ago, I started reading. Gail had a bone marrow transplant done when they were totally experiemental. Even with her death, her parents said it might help others down the road. And look what it has done for you! I've been reading your blog ever since. Maybe my blanket helped a little bit! Or it gave Zoe something to hold onto which is good also.
jnet

Posted by: Jeanette at February 12, 2007 05:36 PM

I started reading about a year ago when Sis#1 posted a link on another message board. I had known someone who had a transplant and had no idea what he and you had to go thru. You are such an inspiration because you put problems in perspective big time.

Posted by: Carol at February 12, 2007 05:51 PM

I am not sure where I found your link. Good luck
at M.D Anderson, but I know you are in tip top shape. Why-because your daughter speaks birdese.

Posted by: Toto at February 12, 2007 07:01 PM

I started reading about two weeks after you found out your diagnosis, then went back and got all caught up. I don't even remember how I found you in the first place!

Posted by: Sharon at February 12, 2007 07:50 PM

i also started reading your blog when nikki said to. you're an inspiration, that's for sure.

Posted by: clandestine at February 12, 2007 08:15 PM

Have a safe trip, Deb, and may all go well!

Posted by: Sometimes Saintly Nick at February 12, 2007 08:36 PM

i found you through sj right after your diagnosis. you've come a long way in a year!

Posted by: moxiemomma at February 12, 2007 09:09 PM

I started reading about a year ago, right after I found out that I had relapsed and an Auto was in my future. I found you on the LLS Boards

Posted by: Robbi at February 13, 2007 07:17 AM

Well, I first read your words on a dating personals site and got to your blog from there (for the secret insider scoop, you know). You had posted the challenge that any man interested had to be more interesting than toxic waste and caught me with the line, "smart girls rock".

I remember your last days of being 37 and the bus rants about the people who caught your attention. I remember Zoe pics by the dozen, discussions of Dr Egypt, and shots at the enginerds in your life.

I remember when I first chatted with you that you had *just* been diagnosed. I remembered reading about your exhausted camping on here as you told me about going into the hospital. I remember how Lance Armstrong inspired you for kicking cancer's ass long before you ever thought about your self and cancer in the same sentance. And i remember how that color yellow came back to you in visions of Uma and Lance and that you did it yourself.

But mostly i remember the smiles you have given me. Whether its from me wondering about how the "worst chicken breast ever" tasted like, or the tales of the grannypot, or that feather boas can complete any look - you have always been a champion and a winner. Thanks, Deb.

PS - Of course, I have always wondered why the "date" with you, meerkat and me never got any blogtime, but maybe the special moments stay private. ;-) Or is that just how rumors get started?

Posted by: James (dare2bgood) at February 13, 2007 09:50 AM

I started reading you a year ago this week I believe. Kami sent us over to you. It was a huge sign in my life at the time. You are awesome and I think of you and send good thoughts your way daily.

Posted by: Missy at February 13, 2007 10:32 AM

Oh and by "us" I meant my mom and I. We both read but she doesn't post.

Posted by: Missy at February 13, 2007 10:32 AM

I started reading right before your transplant. Shoshie sent me!

Posted by: kami at February 13, 2007 12:17 PM

I found your website around October of 2005, when my brother was diagnosed with AML. My brother only lived for 6 months after his initial diagnosis. He needed a transplant and couldn't get into remission. I stumbled across your website doing a search on the Leukemia Society's webpage and have been a stalker since. I am amazed at your courage and strength, and capacity for love after all you have been through.

Posted by: Di at February 13, 2007 01:58 PM

Couldn't tell you the date, and I have an affliction that keeps me from remembering years correctly, as someone had to correct me last week and tell me the actual year G and I started dating, but I remember my very first blog of yours....two words...

DOGGY HOLES.

Long John Silvers hasn't been the same since. heh

Posted by: Ctal at February 13, 2007 05:34 PM

I stumbled in here about the same time Trish (your linky love at Blogging for a Cause) hooked up with you... I did your Inspiration run on 2/27/06 according to my blog so I probably started reading you a bit before that.

I'll be thinking lots of healthy thoughts this month as you go through your visit at MDAnderson.

Posted by: Keri at February 13, 2007 11:10 PM