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Well I think you are allowed to miss your hair and your old life. From what I read here you appreciate your rebirth, but heck who wouldn't want the gorgeous hair you had. Maybe you need to water your hair more?

Of COURSE you are allowed to grieve. Sheesh! When I had short hair, I would keep a spray bottle in the bathroom and I'd wet it down and quickly re-style it.

xoxoxo
Trish

Absolutely you are allowed to miss it (and other things) - just because you had cancer doesn't mean you aren't allowed real human feelings. Yes your hair was beautiful (IS beautiful in my humble opinion) - I am sending lots of GROW GROW GROW vibes your way.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your uncle and will be praying for your aunt and the rest of your family. I think we are still in shock about losing my dad and its almost been a month.
Big hugs

My 22 year old daughter has alopecia ariata and after five years of treatment and it falling out and growing back several times, she has lost all of her hair but a small patch in the back. She has a lovely wig but summer is coming and she loves to swim and a wig is hot and she MISSES HER HAIR, and so do I. I rarely tell anyone about it because people usually say, well, at least it's not a fatal disease or it's just hair - you tell that to a young woman in this society - "it's just hair". Just duck when you say it because she has a mean sucker punch!

You have the right to MISS YOUR HAIR AND SAY SO!

Deb, it'll be back. It's going to kick all of this in fab-uma-debster style, I'm certain! In the meantime, yes, you're definitely allowed to miss it and grieve the loss of your beautiful locks. I tried to search for Anne's post (caits mom) about how it's unreasonable to expect a positive attitudes every moment from cancer patients. Above all, grieving the real losses should be allowed of those who are in the fight for themselves.

As an aside, when Cody shaved my head in '05 for St. Baldrick's and my mom, daughter, hubby, brothers, dad and even our pastor came and had their heads shaved, too, it was incredible to see the women, in particular, without their hair. It was like looking at their faces for the first time because I really saw their faces not just their 'whole appearance'. Just beautiful eyes and facial features that spoke much more than just the immediate emotion but also revealed history, strength and pure beauty that had taken a back seat in light of hair being the main attraction for many of us. I see the same when I look at the photos of Brenda D, too.

I hear you on the fraggle-hair in the mornings. I voluntarily had mine cut in a little pixie cut last week. It's way shorter than yours! It looks great when I've styled it, but it's simply frightening when I wake up. You don't have cancer survivor hair. You have normal, short hair with all the short hair woes that go with it. On the plus side, you can do sassy little styles with it. They're actually "in" right now.

When I've grown mine out from a short cut, I found having a tousled top and short sides and back made it look like a style until the top grew out.

Miss your hair all you want! You're allowed to think you look different without your old hair. But in the meantime, you can still be a diva with what you've got. Halle Berry sure pulls it off!

I think your assignment could be to pamper yourself and go to a funky salon. Get a real sassy style with what you've grown so far.

I would think you were really weird if you didn't miss your old life sometimes. I've not been through anything as rough as you and I miss my old life all the time. If anyone tells you you need to be grateful tell them they need to not be assholes.

You are beautiful.

Ditto.

Of course you can. It will be back. :)

You can totally grieve. Don't feel an ounce of guilt about ME knowing that you miss your hair. Of course you are glad to be alive. Duh! Missing your hair? That's just human.
:)

p.s. Many sypathies about Uncle Roy... if he was in Hospice, I'm sure he had a pleasant and peaceful path out.

I totally can relate to you. I was just saying the same thing this weekend. Although I think I will enjoy having less hair this summer since its like the hell hot here. My favorite are the looks you get, make you want to say hey want the name of my hair dresser?

Honey, you are allowed to feel anything you want or need to feel. You already know that. You don't need anyone's permission. You are so brave and strong and courageous. Your feelings are real and honest and yours. I don't know if this will help or not but I'd miss my hair too. {{{Deb}}}

You are allowed to grieve, sure. But that short, funky-looking hair only puts more emphasis on that fabulous smile of yours.

Much love and hugs,
Amanda (and hey-look at it this way, you still have better hair than Britney Spears.) :)